The Emotional Intelligence (EI)

Emotional ignorance normally takes hostage of people. People being naive, always make them settle for things less than they deserve. Most of them are being weary because of betrayal,denial and other stuffs from others, which shouldn’t be so. Life shouldn’t be made tough because of past scenes,actions and scars rather it should be well enjoyed.

There is the need to have a way of controlling emotions before it controls your life. When we are fully conscious of emotions, controlling some things becomes very easy. Just as ignorance of this makes us captive, intelligence makes us free and hopeful of life. Emotional intelligence is somehow enough for us to accelerate in life rather than halt- which makes us capable of exploring life.

Life is bright,well enjoyed when you are knowledgeable about its stuffs

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others.

Having greater emotional intelligence can help you in almost any interpersonal situation where it’s important to read others and plan your actions accordingly

Emotional intelligence is the ability or awareness of your own emotions and the emotions of others,differentiate between emotions and label them appropriately in order to guide thinking and behaviour.

Models of emotional intelligence

The Ability Model

For perceiving emotions-the ability to identify,differentiate between the various emotions in faces,voices,…it is the basis for processing emotional information

It involves the ability to use emotions in thinking and solving problems. Using ones changing moods in conquering a task .

Mixed model

For self awareness:knowing ones emotions,strengths,weaknesses,drives etc

It involves self regulation-controlling emotions and adapting to changes and it can reveal itself in:

Social skill- managing relationships with people

Empathy- having the ideas of others in mind when making decisions

Motivation- having all the assistance to attaining a goal

Trait model

It is a group of emotional self perceptions of an individual at the lower level of personality. It involves an individual self perception of their emotional activity

How Can I Know My Emotional Intelligence?

Test yourself on these 4 dimensions of EI. Below each description are the items on the test. Just read each one and rate yourself on a scale from most to least characteristic of you. Be honest, as only are the only one reading your own scores!

A. Understand and express your own emotions.

People with this ability know how they’re feeling before other people do.

I have a good sense of why I have certain feelings most of the time.

I have good understanding of my own emotions.

I really understand what I feel.

I always know whether or not I am happy.

B. Perceive and understand the emotions of others around you.

This ability means that you are sensitive to how others are feeling.

I always know my friends’ emotions from their behavior.

I am a good observer of others’ emotions.

I am sensitive to the feelings and emotions of others.

I have good understanding of the emotions of people around me.

C. Regulate your own emotion.

Regulating your emotions means that you are able to keep them under control, especially when you’re feeling distressed.

I always set goals for myself and then try my best to achieve them.

I always tell myself I am a competent person.

I am a self-motivated person.

I would always encourage myself to try my best.

D. Use emotion to maximize performance.

Directing your emotions toward constructive activities allows you to use them to use them to optimal advantage.

I am able to control my temper and handle difficulties rationally.

I am quite capable of controlling my own emotions.

I can always calm down quickly when I am very angry.

I have good control of my own emotions.

Now look at how you’ve scored and compare the items you felt were most like you and the ones that were least like you. Were your strengths in reading yourself, or in reading others? Do you have the most difficulty regulating your emotion? Is it hard for you to muster your emotional strength to put out the best performance possible? The way you answered these questions can provide clues to learning your EI strengths and weaknesses.

By testing your EI, you can tackle whichever one or more are giving you the most difficulty. If it’s help you need in reading the emotions of others, you can work on building your empathy by not being afraid to ask what the people you work with and live with are feeling, especially if you’re not sure, or if you’ve been wrong in the past.

Luckily, great people don’t just have to be born with great emotional intelligence. By learning what contributes to EI, you can develop your own. Not only can this make you a better person but, just as importantly, a better friend and lover.